Okay, so divorce is never going to be a good time for anyone involved but you know what? It doesn’t have to be a total nightmare either! There are better ways to divorce, so let’s take a look at a few things that will help you move on without all of the drama. This is a contributed post.
1. Pick the Right Family Lawyer
If you do only one thing when divorcing, get yourself a good family lawyer because this really is not the time to go it alone. Or even to go it with someone who kinda sorta knows a bit about the law. Even if you are divorcing amicably, (which should be the aim) having a lawyer is a good idea as it will keep things as neutral. Fair and professional as possible, and that will make things so much easier for you emotionally and materially, too.
2. Keep the Drama in Check
We all love a good bit of drama—on TV, for sure, but not in our lives, right? When it comes to divorce, less drama equals more peace of mind. So, resist the urge to send that snarky text or post a cryptic message on social media. Instead, keep things civil, and remember that the goal here is to move forward, not to win an Oscar for Best Meltdown in a Divorce.
3. Think Long-Term
It’s so very easy to get caught up in the heat of the moment and demand the moon (or at least the nice couch). But before you start making demands, take a step back and think long-term. What do you really need to be happy and secure in the future? It’s not just about the stuff—it’s about setting yourself up for a better life after the dust settles. Working with your family lawyer, focus on what really matters, like a fair division of assets, custody arrangements that work for everyone, and a plan that helps you start fresh.
4. Get Some Support
Divorce can feel like a solo mission, but it doesn’t have to be. Surround yourself with a support system that’s got your back. This could be friends, family, or even a therapist who can help you navigate the emotional ups and downs. And don’t forget to lean on your family lawyer for legal support. Having people you trust in your corner makes the process a lot less overwhelming—and maybe even a little bit empowering.
5. Embrace the Fresh Start
Finally, remember that divorce is an ending, but it’s also a beginning. It’s the perfect time to reinvent yourself, take up new hobbies, or just enjoy the freedom to be you. Whether it’s redecorating your space, trying out that new yoga class, or simply taking a deep breath and realizing you’re going to be okay, embrace the fresh start. The best part of a better divorce? The better life that comes after it.
As you can see, you really can make your divorce a little less “ugh” and a little more “ahh.”