If you’re a single mom, you already know a lot about navigating the challenges of life. Fortunately, there are plenty of excellent resources online for mothers of young children who need help with social services, daycare, financial support, raising kids, taking care of themselves, and more. What should every single mom know, in addition to the long list of things they have already mastered? It’s not widely known that there are dozens of non-profit organizations out there that are wholly dedicated to assisting single parents in all sorts of ways. Additionally, many women are not aware that most US states have filial responsibility laws on the books that could force them to pay for indigent care of an elderly parent. The following are just a few of the issues about which all parents should be informed, shared by a guest contributor.
(Some) Things Single Moms Should Know
Many Non-Profits Cater to Single Parents
It’s easy and rewarding to do an online search for non-profit organizations that offer financial, emotional, and other kinds of support to unmarried moms. Depending on your needs and where you live, it’s possible to apply for a cash grant from non-profits to pay for schooling, childcare, a new car, or even a first home. Check with one of the reputable non-profit search sites and explore the possibilities. Be ready to write brief essays explaining your reasons for requesting assistance.
Most States Have Filial Responsibility Laws
Unless you work in the financial or legal industry, you probably don’t know that the majority of US states have what are called filial piety laws on the books. What are these arcane regulations all about? They require adults to provide financial support to indigent parents. You should check whether you live in one of the 30 or so states with filial responsibility laws in effect. If you do, and if one or both of your elderly parents become indigent and need financial assistance, you could be on the hook for providing the support. These unusual but common laws exist in both federal and state forms. They differ a bit from place to place but typically require people to pay for long-term care or medical bills, or both, for impoverished parents. For obvious reasons, it’s critical to know whether your state has such laws.
Routines
One of the indisputable facts of child-rearing is that youngsters thrive on routines. That’s why it’s so vital to set relatively fixed times for daily activities like arising, eating breakfast, bathing, leaving for school, eating dinner, and going to bed. Routines give kids a sense of security and safety in knowing that each day has its own rhythm and stable pace.
You Must Take Care of Yourself Too
Far too many women neglect their own wellbeing. It’s an understandable oversight because moms tend to pour themselves into their children’s lives and miss out on relaxation, rest, recreation, and outings. If you fit that description, set aside at least 30 minutes each day to do something for yourself. Go for a walk, take a long bath, stretch, take a yoga class, or meditate. Caring for yourself is the cornerstone of parenting.